The main (and minor) win of this PR is that the transport is fully the
responsibility of the router and the node doesn't need to be responsible for its lifecylce.
## Description
Internalize some libs. This reduces the amount ot public API tendermint is supporting. The moved libraries are mainly ones that are used within Tendermint-core.
This revises the new P2P `Transport` interface and does some preliminary code cleanups and simplifications.
The major change here is to add `Connection.Handshake()` for performing node handshakes (once the stream transport API is implemented, this can be done entirely independent of the transport). This moves most of the handshaking logic into the `Router`, such as prevention of head-of-line blocking, validation of peer's `NodeInfo`, controlling timeouts, and so on. This significantly simplifies transports, completely removes the need for internal goroutines, and shares common logic across all transports. This also allows varying the handshake `NodeInfo` across peers, e.g. to vary `ListenAddr`. Similarly, connection filtering is also moved into the switch/router so that it can be shared between transports.
This patches over a test data race where the logger would try to read struct internals via `reflect` while these were concurrently modified (specifically `MemoryTransport.closeOnce`).
This improves the `peerStore` prototype by e.g.:
* Using a database with Protobuf for persistence, but also keeping full peer set in memory for performance.
* Simplifying the API, by taking/returning struct copies for safety, and removing errors for in-memory operations.
* Caching the ranked peer set, as a temporary solution until a better data structure is implemented.
* Adding `PeerManagerOptions.MaxPeers` and pruning the peer store (based on rank) when it's full.
* Rewriting `PeerAddress` to be independent of `url.URL`, normalizing it and tightening semantics.