Fixes #3369

ref: [#3010 (comment)](https://github.com/tendermint/tendermint/issues/3010#issuecomment-464287627)

> I tried searching for code where we authenticate a peer against its NetAddress.ID and couldn't find it. I don't see a reason to switch to Noise, but a need to ensure that the node's ID is authenticated e.g. after dialing from the address book.

* p2p: check secret conn id matches dialed id

* Fix all p2p tests & make code compile

* add simple test for dialing with wrong ID

* update changelog

* address review comments

* yet another place where to use IDAddressString and fix
testSetupMultiplexTransport

* close peer's connection to avoid fd leak

Fixes #2967

* rename peer#Addr to RemoteAddr

* fix test

* fixes after Ethan's review

* bring back the check

* changelog entry

* write a test for switch#acceptRoutine

* increase timeouts? :(

* remove extra assertNPeersWithTimeout

* simplify test

* assert number of peers (just to be safe)

* Cleanup in OnStop

* run tests with verbose flag on CircleCI

* spawn a reading routine to prevent connection from closing

* get port from the listener

random port is faster, but often results in

```
panic: listen tcp 127.0.0.1:44068: bind: address already in use [recovered]
        panic: listen tcp 127.0.0.1:44068: bind: address already in use

goroutine 79 [running]:
testing.tRunner.func1(0xc0001bd600)
        /usr/local/go/src/testing/testing.go:792 +0x387
panic(0x974d20, 0xc0001b0500)
        /usr/local/go/src/runtime/panic.go:513 +0x1b9
github.com/tendermint/tendermint/p2p.MakeSwitch(0xc0000f42a0, 0x0, 0x9fb9cc, 0x9, 0x9fc346, 0xb, 0xb42128, 0x0, 0x0, 0x0, ...)
        /home/vagrant/go/src/github.com/tendermint/tendermint/p2p/test_util.go:182 +0xa28
github.com/tendermint/tendermint/p2p.MakeConnectedSwitches(0xc0000f42a0, 0x2, 0xb42128, 0xb41eb8, 0x4f1205, 0xc0001bed80, 0x4f16ed)
        /home/vagrant/go/src/github.com/tendermint/tendermint/p2p/test_util.go:75 +0xf9
github.com/tendermint/tendermint/p2p.MakeSwitchPair(0xbb8d20, 0xc0001bd600, 0xb42128, 0x2f7, 0x4f16c0)
        /home/vagrant/go/src/github.com/tendermint/tendermint/p2p/switch_test.go:94 +0x4c
github.com/tendermint/tendermint/p2p.TestSwitches(0xc0001bd600)
        /home/vagrant/go/src/github.com/tendermint/tendermint/p2p/switch_test.go:117 +0x58
testing.tRunner(0xc0001bd600, 0xb42038)
        /usr/local/go/src/testing/testing.go:827 +0xbf
created by testing.(*T).Run
        /usr/local/go/src/testing/testing.go:878 +0x353
exit status 2
FAIL    github.com/tendermint/tendermint/p2p    0.350s
```

* Revert to using defers in addrbook.  ValidateBasic->Validate since it requires DNS

* Update CHANGELOG_PENDING

* p2p: NewMultiplexTransport takes an MConnConfig

* changelog

* move test func to test file

* catch up with amino changes in
https://github.com/tendermint/go-amino/pull/222

* WIP: update to amino v0.13.0

* update to fixed amino release

* p2p: bring back OriginalAddr

* p2p: set OriginalAddr

* update changelog

* p2p: NodeInfo is an interface

* (squash) fixes from review

* (squash) more fixes from review

* p2p: remove peerConn.HandshakeTimeout

* p2p: NodeInfo is two interfaces. Remove String()

* fixes from review

* remove test code from peer.RemoteIP()

* p2p: remove peer.OriginalAddr(). See #2618

* use a mockPeer in peer_set_test.go

* p2p: fix testNodeInfo naming

* p2p: remove unused var

* remove testRandNodeInfo

* fix linter

* fix retry dialing self

* fix rpc

* Add additional metrics to p2p and consensus
Partially addresses https://github.com/cosmos/cosmos-sdk/issues/2169.
* WIP
* Updates from code review
* Updates from code review
* Add instrumentation namespace to configuration
* Fix test failure
* Updates from code review
* Add quotes
* Add atomic load
* Use storeint64
* Use addInt64 in writePacketMsgTo

* stop node upon receiving SIGTERM or CTRL-Ceven during genesis sleep by setting up interrupt before starting a node

Closes #2434

* call Start, not OnStart when starting a component to avoid:

```
E[09-24|10:13:15.805] Not stopping PubSub -- have not been started yet module=pubsub impl=PubSub
```

being printed on exit

This is the implementation for the design described in ADR 12[0]. It's
the first step of a larger refactor of the p2p package as tracked in
interface bundling all concerns of low-level connection handling and
isolating the rest of peer lifecycle management from the specifics of
the low-level internet protocols. Even if the swappable implementation
will never be utilised, already the isolation of conn related code in
one place will help with the reasoning about execution path and
addressation of security sensitive issues surfaced through bounty
programs and audits.

We deliberately decided to not have Peer filtering and other management
in the Transport, its sole responsibility is the translation of
connections to Peers, handing those to the caller fully setup. It's the
responsibility of the caller to reject those and or keep track. Peer
filtering will take place in the Switch and can be inspected in a the
following commit.

This changeset additionally is an exercise in clean separation of logic
and other infrastructural concerns like logging and instrumentation. By
leveraging a clean and minimal interface. How this looks can be seen in
a follow-up change.

Design #2069[2]
Refs #2067[3]
Fixes #2047[4]
Fixes #2046[5]

changes:
* describe Transport interface
* implement new default Transport: MultiplexTransport
* test MultiplexTransport with new constraints
* implement ConnSet for concurrent management of net.Conn, synchronous
to PeerSet
* implement and expose duplicate IP filter
* implemnt TransportOption for optional parametirisation

[0] https://github.com/tendermint/tendermint/blob/master/docs/architecture/adr-012-peer-transport.md
[1] https://github.com/tendermint/tendermint/issues/2067
[2] https://github.com/tendermint/tendermint/pull/2069
[3] https://github.com/tendermint/tendermint/issues/2067
[4] https://github.com/tendermint/tendermint/issues/2047
[5] https://github.com/tendermint/tendermint/issues/2046