This continues the push of plumbing contexts through tendermint. I
attempted to find all goroutines in the production code (non-test) and
made sure that these threads would exit when their contexts were
canceled, and I believe this PR does that.
The main (and minor) win of this PR is that the transport is fully the
responsibility of the router and the node doesn't need to be responsible for its lifecylce.
This cleans up the `Router` code and adds a bunch of tests. These sorts of systems are a real pain to test, since they have a bunch of asynchronous goroutines living their own lives, so the test coverage is decent but not fantastic. Luckily we've been able to move all of the complex peer management and transport logic outside of the router, as synchronous components that are much easier to test, so the core router logic is fairly small and simple.
This also provides some initial test tooling in `p2p/p2ptest` that automatically sets up in-memory networks and channels for use in integration tests. It also includes channel-oriented test asserters in `p2p/p2ptest/require.go`, but these have primarily been written for router testing and should probably be adapted or extended for reactor testing.