adjust stale action settings (#5080)

## Description

adjustment of stale action settings, making it a tad more strict

Closes: #XXX

.github/workflows/stale.yml

@@ -10,6 +10,9 @@ jobs:
       - uses: actions/stale@v3
         with:
           repo-token: ${{ secrets.GITHUB_TOKEN }}
-          stale-pr-message: "Message to comment on stale PRs. If none provided, will not mark PRs stale"
-          days-before-stale: 20
+          stale-pr-message: "This pull request has been automatically marked as stale because it has not had
+    recent activity. It will be closed if no further activity occurs. Thank you
+    for your contributions."
+          days-before-stale: 10
+          days-before-close: 4
           exempt-pr-labels: "S:wip"